6.28.2012

Wants and Needs

Last night at church, we heard about contentment, being satisfied with where God has each of us right now.

Part of this lesson, and I'm not really sure what part, led me to have the urge to completely list out all of my wants and all of my needs. They're going to get completely jumbled together, so I'm not going to specify which is a 'Need' and which is a 'Want'.

If you think I'm pulling any punches, or being dishonest in ANY way, call me on it.
If you think I've left anything off this list, call me on it.
If you think I'm being silly or selfish or self-indulgent about any of it, keep it to yourself!

Here goes Gut-Level Honesty.


I want a man.
I want to get married and have at LEAST 2- 3kids, but I haven't decided how many I want yet.
I want a small wedding, so I don't have to pay a lot, but also so people I know would want to come, can't.
I want a man that makes me laugh, that thinks protecting the environment is important, who takes care of himself with exercise and eating well, but isn't necessarily obsessed with it. Someone who is into movies and TV shows, but isn't religious about it. Someone who not only WANTS to lead, but actually CAN. I don't say this to be disrespectful, but because I want someone who will make decisions, considering my feelings, but not feeling the need to consult me for everything.
I want someone I can talk to about EVERYTHING, from geek TV and movies, to exercise, to food, to God and spirituality, and my emotions.
I need someone both willing and able to ask me the questions that I don't want to think about. I need someone willing to fight for me, even (and especially) if that means fighting with me. Someone who can see my insecurity, but doesn't cater to it.
I want a best friend in my marriage.


I want the time and the money to truly write a blog.
I want to make it about food and gardening and my life.
I want people to actually read it.
I want to spend my time baking for people, and not have to worry about how to pay for the ingredients.
I want to make ice cream that isn't a slow acting poison.
I want people to really think about what they eat and why so much of it isn't really food.

I want to lose weight.
I want to be a size 6 again.
I want to have the time and energy and schedule availability to do yoga at least 3-4 days a week, and I don't want to have to drive to Santa Monica to do so.
I want an electric car.
I want easy parking everywhere.
I want another scooter.

I want to go to Italy and ride a Vespa through the streets of Rome.
I want to travel all over the world.

I need to learn how to Meditate, to calm my thoughts and let go of myself.

I want to not need money.
I want to get rid of most of my 'stuff' and live unencumbered.
I want to not need to be entertained.
I want to not be bored doing nothing.

I want to be satisfied with where I am.
I want to be satisfied with WHO I am.

I want to be comfortable in my own skin.
I don't want to be so critical and unforgiving of myself.

I want to not be scared to tell people when they've hurt me or let me down, or to give them correction.
I want to not fear rejection with every shred of my being.
I want to not feel like I'm going to cry right now.
I want to be able to cry without fear of being judged because that's not appropriate right now.

I want to be able to embrace my emotions rather than stomping down on them because if people see it they won't like me any more. Or so I believe.

I want to be able to completely let loose, go crazy, have fun and not worry about anything. Even if only for 5 minutes.

I need to be free from my self-imposed jail.
I need to figure out who I am under everything, and let my self be that person.

I want to be more comfortable with people.
I want to be able to actually talk to people, ask them how they are doing, and really be able to listen. Not just to what they're saying but to what they're NOT saying.

I want to be famous. I think it's because I crave love and attention, and I keep telling myself I can deal with the critics, but I don't know if I'm strong enough.
I want to be a really good actress.
I want to win an Oscar. Or two.

I want to make a living doing something I love.
I want to marry someone who has a good job that he likes, if not loves, that doesn't take up ALL his time.

I want to take a food tour of the world.
I want to take a food tour of LA, trying tons of different restaurants, without having to pay for it, or having enough money to not worry about it.

I want to go to Disneyland.
I want to go to Six Flags.
I want to go to a water park.

I want to have a hobby besides watching movies and looking on IMDb.

I want to be more creative.
I want to be able to create characters that are 3-dimensional.

I want my back to not hurt right now.
I want to sleep.

I want to eat food that is Epic Bad for me.


I want someone to cook for, someone to take care of.
I want a partner.

I want to not be so focused on having another person in my life.
I need to depend more on God.
I need to not take God for granted.
I need to look for Him.
I need to be more concerned with what He thinks, and less concerned with what people think.

I need to be content.
I need to be satisfied.


I want to get away from everything, leave the city.
I need a vacation. In Bali, or some other exotic place.
I want to learn to farm. I want to have an Ice Cream farm, and raise dairy cows and chickens. Grow strawberries, blueberries, and peppermint. And bees.
I want to start my own food label that is entirely unprocessed and organic goodies.


I want to not owe money on my credit card. It makes me nervous to owe more than I can pay.
I don't want to eat only lentils and beans and rice for the next 2 months.

I want corporation to not have so much control over the American Public.
I want government officials to make a reasonable amount of money, and only for the time they're in office.
I want Public Healthcare to be more intelligent.
I want our health system to be more focused on prevention, and be able to focus less on cures.
I want people to stop polluting and damaging this planet and poisoning each other.


I want people stop feeling so entitled all the time.


I want more courage.
I want to fear things less.
I want to stop.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Dear One, you must remember that God is writing your story, and like all truly great stories, the heroine must go through obstacles and adversity to win the victory, claim the prize and fall in love with the perfect man. And just like those great stories, the heroine cannot see how long or how deep the valley is, nor how close they really are to the end of the difficult task/journey/quest.

Of course it is hard now, of course you despair of ever finding the things you seek, but God is on control of these things, you know you can trust him, sometimes you just have to remind your heart of hearts of the truth. HE is creating you, molding you into the person who can fulfil your part of His will on earth and you must not despise that.

And while, yes, you should be content in the blessings you have, He also created in you the desire for more, the desire to fully become his daughter, and that cannot be suppressed or ignored.

Wait, and act, and pray. You don't know how close you are to the goal (at least this one)