Why I'm Single

So I was thinking about it, and People keep asking me why I'm single. Over time, I've come up with many reasons, and the short answer is that I'm high-maintenance, picky, and commitment-phobic. The long answer though, is a bit more complicated.

  1. I am high-maintenance. That's not a joke. I'm not really, not in terms of needing flowers and candy every day, or whatever, but I do need a certain amount of encouragement in a relationship just to feel like it's where I should be.
    • ...But I still need my space. I had one guy I was seeing who called me every single day, and I was like, "Umm, ok, air? Maybe?"

  2. I don't really know how to flirt. I may find a guy I like, but I'm not very good at showing him I'm interested.
    • And I'm not very good at taking hints when they come my way.

  3. And I'm picky. I'm getting better at turning off guys I'm not interested in. Usually just by ignoring them, but sometimes by doing outrageous things.
    • The problem is, sometimes I ignore guys I want to notice me, because I don't want to be the first one to do the noticing...

  4. I have high-standards. Maybe too high...
    • I just want someone who is both attractive and intelligent and has a sense of humor, who isn't a total asshole. Is that too much to ask?

  5. I think I might be a little intimidating. People tell me I am, but I never used to believe it until recently.
    • Something about being both attractive and intelligent, with a sense of humor, and not a total bitch.

  6. In all honesty, I've said yes to almost every guy who's asked me out. The few exceptions were because they either came out of the blue and I was caught completely unawares, or because, in the most recent case, the relationship was simply moving too fast.
    • I'll tell you that story another time. I'm still not ready to bare those secrets.

I think it all comes down to my expecting the happy ending in a trashy romance novel. I've read too many of them at this point and I think, even subconsciously that's what I want. I know, in my head that it'll never happen like that, but hey, a girl can dream, right?

Question of the Day: Why are/aren't you single?

1 comment:

BlueCoder said...

I'm guessing you suffer from emancipated female denial. Denial because you don't want to acknowledge that your a lot like the majority of young men. That is you don't really know what you want and aren't really ready to commit to anything and don't want to get hurt. You just want to live a little and have have a good time until you get your head on straight and are ready to grow up. Girls just wanna have fun...

Until then you cling to a fantasy, an image of a person not based in reality. An image that no person will ever live up to and choose to believe that your heart is open.

It's just a shot in the dark, a quick guess, not a judgment of any.